Tips to Better Foreplay for Her
A lot of articles, books and reports have been dedicated to having better
sex in your relationship, or be a better lover. In the writings you will find that the key ingredient to this is communication. When you are in a relationship it is extremely important to talk with your partner to find out what is it that they enjoy as well as to communicate your own personal likes and dislikes.
However, one topic of discussion that does not get enough respect is foreplay. This has been a topic of discussions, jokes and often times complaints. Many people feel that this is an unnecessary and time consuming activity that really has no benefits. For women and men alike there are many couples to whom foreplay is not something that they feel any benefits from. For others, even when they feel mentally or emotionally ready they are physically not, and welcome many forms of foreplay to reach there desired readiness.
Couples often begin prior to a lovemaking session. However, try beginning early in the day, if you have time. Anticipation of what is to come helps to heighten and stimulate the experience. This can be done very easily with simple kissing, hugging and light touching. Keep your partner guessing as to whether now is the time, or are you still teasing. To make sure they remain on their toes take every opportunity to pull them close and give them a long, deep, passionate kiss that will leave each of you breathless. Continue to reach out and lightly touch through out the day.
As the moment gets closer, begin with the deep kissing, light touching and begin to remove their clothes. This will signal that the time has arrived, and it for some reason your partner is not ready, they can tell you. Try to keep these moments random. Relationships become a little stale when you create rules to having sex. Mix up the time, the place, and always the how.
For women this is the point wherein they find that most men have managed to find their breast and nipples and have stopped. While many women find this appealing, only linger if she is responding in a positive manner. Remember, that the back, belly, buttocks, thighs and knees are also special places. Using fingertips to touch create sensations that build the anticipation that you have been stoking all day. Now is a good time to ask “do you enjoy this?” Or “is there something else I can do?” Always listen to her response.
Make your movements slow. If you begin by suckling her nipples, do not simply jump up, and take a leap down south. Use this time to lick, touch, kiss and tease your way down her body. Shake things up, if she is lying on her back, begin your descent and turn her over half way through. This will keep her tuned in to your every move.
Care is needed when attempting to use fingers as a means of a clitoral orgasm as some women become sensitive to dry fingertips. Should this be a problem, use a lubricant or use oral sex to achieve these. Again, pay attention to any response she is giving you as an overly sensitive clitoris or labia will only cause discomfort and will achieve nothing.
Should you find that lubricants are needed or wanted there are a variety of products that do not resemble thick gels. Many help to enhance the experience by tingling, warming or cooling the areas applied to. Some are flavored for use during oral sex, or anywhere on the body.
Sex toys are becoming very popular in adding an extra bit of fun. Many can be used during foreplay as well as during the lovemaking. Before choosing a product, look over many different toys and talk about what your expectations for the use are. This is a toy and should be used for fun and enjoyment, not to make someone feel replaced.
To summarize, while communication is and always will be the key, there are many others things to memorable, enjoyable foreplay that will enhance the experience for both partners. Kissing, touching, massaging are all ways to bring out the physical side to get her ready. Remember to take your time. Instead of jumping around from one place to another, use your bodies to move slowly and experiment with what you both feel is exciting. And never forget to listen and watch for responses to what you are doing. Sometimes you may see a look that says, don’t ever stop.
Keep it enjoyable!!
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